I've learning to "LISTEN" and just express my feelings in the very moment. There is no boundary that hasn't been explained before and there is no pleading,teaching or critical comment that hasn't been expressed. I try to show compassion for the disease of addiction and express my hope for recovery. I didn't use to be able to speak to my son either. Now I come from a place of compassion, love + emotion.
He doesn't ask for my advice or anything else. I just have unconditional love.
I HATE the disease, I remember I do love the son.