Hi there,
I, too, faced this very same issue with my daughter when she was in rehab. Now keep in mind I really dislike the fact that she smokes. I hate it for her health and she knows how much I hate it for her. She never asked me to buy cigarettes, but ONE time I broke down and sent her some. As soon as I put them in the mail, I felt badly about it. I felt as though I was sending her the very thing that could cause her to have cancer. So, needless to say, I never did it again.
My daughter still smokes today. She knows I hate it for her, but the best thing I can do is keep my mouth shut!
I agree with Big Sis. You have to be comfortable with your decision. That's one thing recovery and working a 12 step program has done for me. Taught me about setting boundaries and doing what I am comfortable with.
Hugs,
Hangin' In