Chero,
Even if he embraces recovery, he will always be an alcoholic. He will always think like an alcoholic, his abuse will not end just because he is not drinking. He has other deep rooted problems that cause many of his issues. Alcohol just magnifies them.
Fifty years ago, women had few choices, today our choices are endless, we do not have to live with an abuser, an irresponsible bully.
What about you? You never post about you, you always post about him. Who are you? Where do you want to be in five years and how are you going to get there.
You are keeping yourself in a self emposed prison with invisible bars, why?
I know the standard response...because I Love Him, I've heard that a 1000 times from a 1000 different women...where is the self love? Love yourself first, and everything else will fall into place, not necessarily with him, but with someone else who sees that you will not settle for less than total respect and devotion, because you love you, because you respect you, because you are devoted to you, your happiness and well-being.
It all begins and ends with you.