Dear Susan, It is so obvious once you see it I get angry it took me so long. Truth is I saw it yrs ago & if not for my parents enabling I am sure this would have been stopped yrs ago. When a family member is using drugs or gambling to the point of addiction the only thing to do is cut them loose to fully live the consequences of their actions. Not many who had a decent life growing up stay in that life once the support of the family is withdrawn.
It is up to us to stay strong no matter what happens to them as that is the only way they will ever choose sobriety.
You are doing great. I firmly believe that is the only way our kids will ever get well.
Love,
Diane
PS I told my son in a letter that no matter what was done for him he kept throwing himself under the bus so now it is 100% up to him. I still have an occasional moment when I feel bad for him but not often. He may have hurt himself but he has also hurt our family so very much.