it seems i'm replacing all my codieisms with other material since xh is out of the pic.
Yep, I do it too sometimes.
Recently had a friend get mad at me and block my email address bc I hadnt called her in a week..this was a week following about 4 months of being her emotional crutch, which is a position I totally put myself in..Thats me the helper..putting someone else's needs ahead of my own...I know where it will take me, but Im in the express lane anyway! Damn this disease!
You are strong and wise and been to this rodeo a time or two..
Whats next?
A meeting?
Coffee date alone?
Rent a good movie and hole up in your room for a couple hours and breath?
Get a manicure or massage?
I dont know how you feel about spirituality..but there is a really good book that helps me tremendously, called Approval Addiction, by Joyce Meyer..sheds alot of light on keeping me out of the yes business.