"A person who is acting out self destructively has no reason to change if they do not ever suffer major consequences for their behavior. If they are rescued from consequences, they are enabled to continue practicing their addiction."
this pretty much sums it up...........for me anyway. i have to ask myself in every decision that has to do with addiction in my family -"how is this helping me in my recovery? how is this going to affect my daughter or my husband in their recoveries?"