((((Rozied))))
I am so proud of you.
What you are doing is difficult to say the least.
Its OK to feel sorry for him...most would, but just as you said, this is what now needs to be done....and you should be proud to have the strength and courage to step in and facilitate change
Maybe this would be a good time to suggest to your SS to find an alternative babysitter, just for a few days, and you and your hubby take a road trip.
Nothing extravagant, just time away from phones and kids and all else.
You guys have been the helpers for quite a while...its your turn
Just a thought
((((hugs))))
Cece