Hi,
I feel your pain, my Mom is the alcoholic in my life. She has been drinking for over 60 years. She has never seeked recovery and never will. This I have to accept.
With that said, it has been a struggle for me. It has affected my entire life. When I started working on me, my issues, I was able to let go and live my life for me.
I found that meetings helped me, gave me the direction I needed to save myself, as I cannot save her, she doesn't want to be saved...that's the bottom line.
Yes, I love her, but, I love myself more, there is only one I can save, and that is me.