Hi. I don't have any advice but I have been in your shoes. I didn't let my daughter back in my home. She went to live in the salvation army shelter. I could not deal with the chaos as it was destroying my entire family. She did clean up for 2 1/2 years but relapsed recently. I have her baby and am very grateful, he is the love of my life. I do know that you have a young teen-ager that deserves the best chance of a normal life as possible, without the chaos of his brother. Maybe offer paying for a shelter for a month, I believe it was $7 a day, they have to be out by 7am and back in by 7pm. It was clean and food was provided. I hope you have some peace. Marian