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Old 05-24-2007, 07:53 AM
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Originally Posted by andshewas View Post
Had a huge fight yesterday and now I feel kind of numb. It was over communication- and how I feel that any time I try to discus what I feel stronlgy about, he shuts me down. Politics this time. "You just get too intense and I don't want to say anything." Nor want me to say anything, it seems. So I left the room to cool off because my feelings were hurt, and he follows me and it just explodes.

We are still going to couples counselling, but damn, I just wanted to leave.
We have a rule in our household, and it was set long before I realized it would also help my recovery, that if one of us really needs to get away from the arguement/fight (we fight over communication ALL THE TIME) that person simply says "I need to separate myself right now".

Since we made this rule and we both use it, both of us feel safe using it in our fights and let me tell you it has helped both of us defuse. Especially when we get into those fights when they become circular.
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