Some great advice ahead of me! It really is what you can live with. All I know is when my AD was DESPARATE for money because of this, that or the other thing, especially mentioning groceries, it was funny how she quickly turned her nose up to me buying groceries for her and bringing them to her. If she was truly hungry, she would have taken them.
Only through experience, time and testing myself did I find what I could and could not tolerate. I agree with CeCe, that is really what is important.
I'm sorry for your pain. But you are not alone.
marteen