i can't make that right, i know better. and i'm not making excuses about my ah being sober, i just don't know what he's really like when sober, all i know is that when he's sober everybody knows his every move, he makes sure of that by mostly taking one of the kids with him or calling every 5 mins, letting some one know down to the minutes he'll be home. its when hes high is when i don't trust him and i'm not blaming it on the drugs, its the addict that takes the drugs that hurts the addict, not the drug itself.