Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
Also, pick yourself up a copy of Melody Beatty's book, "Codependent No More." It has helped many of us move on to happier lives. You can find it in your local bookstore under the Self Help section or you can order a copy online via this website.
Welcome to the forum.
An excellent read - I wish I'd picked it up a long time ago.
Welcome Ellelove - and lots of hugs to you.