I agree with Teach
I am also a parent. My RAD starting using around age 15. She was not stupid. She made a very bad choice and had a very trusting heart believing her "friends" were telling her the truth about the drug she about to try. Also wanting to fit in with a crowd. Actually, she did not want to fit in with the crowd she was in.(The very smart kids). To her that was a put down.
She made bad choices, but I do not feel that she is/was "stupid"
All this said IMHO
Also, on Marle's originally post. Someone once told me that if the devil could not "get to you" he would go after your children who were not as strong. Sometimes I do think about this. The devil would know that my faith would be tested by bad things happening to my children.
Kinda reminds me of the ScrewTape Letters written by CS Lewis.
Terri