Moderation does not work for an alcoholic.
Have you ever heard of Moderation Management? It is a 9 step alternative to AA and the goal is to take control of your drinking. Here is their website:
http://www.moderation.org/
The founder of MM, Audrey Kishline, was involved in a DUI that killed 2 people. She ulltimately joined AA. Google this and you will find lots of data on it.
It is only by the grace of God that I am not incarcerated - I could have done what Audrey did many times.
Has she looked at AA at all? Did she reject AA? Please tell us more.