There were a few things that struck me reading these posts, I want to speak about one of them.
TRUST
A good union requires complete and total trust between the partners....as you contemplate whether their could be a future reunion, please ask yourself if you would ever be able to give your absolute trust to this person and relationship.
For me, that is the very foundation absolutely prerequisite to a committed, intimate relationship. You also need to be able to trust the commitment itself.
just throwing some thoughts out there.