However, one women, an adult child of alcoholics & her ex is an addict. Told me that because of ME, my son will have problems forever & it IS my fault. And that my happiness caused the problems my children are having now.
Watta bunch of malarky.
You KNOW that your experience is different... the opinions above me are different. I think it might be time to not communicate with this particular woman about these issues.
My parents were both active alcoholics while I was growing up... they did the best they knew how to do at the time. Figuring THAT out made MY life much better.
I am not surprised that a younger person hasn't figured this out, yet... but I would certainly convey THAT message to your son at some point.
That other woman obviously still has some growing left to do...
((hugs))