I wonder what the psycology is behind the bi-polar and the addiction? Is it just an escape or is it about self destruction? I do believe bi-polar is a disease but I think Drs through it around as a catch all so they can put you on meds and not have to deal with it. My A left me after she got "sober" and had been in AA for 2 months. She has little or not emotion about the loss of our marriage and seems to be hard as stone. I cried on the phone one night trying to get her to call every thing of and I think I heard a sniff or two towards the end but for the most part she is pretty heartless. Is this typical, she never gets overly happy but the moods did swing, she even slapped me around once? I did not hit her back because I knew she would call the cops. I ended up with a mark below my eye and the shirt torn of my back. I am at the point now where I know it is over but it is pretty lonely. Here is another question, how long does it take for an A on average to do the 12 steps?