For me the fear of him feeling like we are fine without him and that he hads no reason to get better scares me...............I KNOW he has all the reasons to get better now and doesnt so it really wouldnt matter what I said ....we're fine or we're miserable he'll use if he chooses but still I have a hard time feeling like " I may take away his options" and then what if he dies or killed himself going......All the way back out...........