cinder, i know it feels like a life time since it hasn't been this long before, but remember, everything is progressive with addicts, i mean everything. at first we went from being seperated one wk then it progressed once to almost 3 yrs. he's gone now, and i feel like our seperation is just beginning and its been a month or so. i really don't expect for him to even try to contact us if ever, right now. he may try about 5 or 6 months from now but maybe never. try to be strong, he'll get around to calling you, maybe to tell you he's doing good, or to say that he just can't live without you or just that he wants to come home. there will be something if nothing more than to do what my ah did once, he call wanting to borrow toothpaste in some foil after about 6 months of no contact, i mean he was about 20 miles away, imagine that