Thanks. I was just thinking last time we split he stopped calling (but he did call teh kids) he was aloof ect. Why because he thought that was what I wanted because I said just leave me alone...That was the point I went back and fell into his arms crying.
Same thing is essentially happening now, but he's not calling kids...Maybe for now thats easier on us all. I did tell him not to contact me until he was acting responsibly and taking care of his family. In part he may be respecting that. I ahve to leave it there.... and then reaccess in 30 days. Him staying away, especially if he's starting picking himself up, may just be the most mature thing he has done.
(and if not it helps thinking that way)