I know I do have a problem with it. I don't want to be just another excuse for Squinty to drink--so I hardly ever drink at all. The bad thing for me is that everyone on both sides drinks, and any get-together turns into a "party". Then I look like the stick-in-the-mud, or goody-goody. Because of my upbringing, my self-image is really lacking (something I work on constantly), so I worry what people think of me. Besides, I have never liked to feel out of control. Since Squinty became an alcoholic, I worry more that I could easily become one, since my father was one, too. It's hard to not drink when everyone else is, but I just don't. I'm a better example for my kids that way, too.
But, I've never been one to "go out with the girls"--so that's not a problem for me.
I don't think I was much of a help, but perhaps I was able to help you think it through a bit, in my jumbled ramblings.....
Lyn