it is, do they have a stable home for the kids? If not its not even a consideration.
The state has a 6 month plan where they have to pay support regularly scheduled visits ect. and stable home situation and jobs, proof of jobs. They have a year to complete the plan that can be done in 6 months. After a year, the state can make a determination to permantly take the kids
Your not being selfish your thinking of the kids well being