WW,
I understand your pain. No one can say that anything works absolutely and always - there are many, many variables. I have learned the hard way, believe me, that I have to decide what works for me.
I cannot have a front-row seat to my addict daughter's addiction and subsequent behavior. I have learned that, for me! And I have definately realized that I cannot save her from herself. I cannot control her addictive behavior; I can only control how much it controls me.
You are not alone; we are all in this together and we all try to share what has worked or not worked for us through our own experiences. None of us are here to judge. And none of us has all the answers.
Take care of you and do what you feel you need to do so you don't become as sick or sicker than your addict.
