He looked at porn on clean in between days that I was working, so I dont know. They say sex is poor mans cocaine and he wanted all the time when not using so maybe that was his way of holding off till I got home?
About the wine, only you can answer that question. Watch out for mind tricks. What about the wine appeals to you? Can something else relapse what is appealing? Grape juice amybe sparking grape juice. Herb tea for calming effect?
Think about your motives