Just wanted to say that this is an awesome thread- packed with SO SO SO MUCH great stuff.
It really helped reinforce that despite no actual HARD EVIDENCE- my observance of "using behaviors" is enough to TRUST myself and to learn to stop engaging in conversations with the addict trying to point out what I see in hopes that he'll confess.
It's not going to happen- he'll keep lying- I need to keep my eyes open.
As I read on another post- if someone called me a chair- would I believe them?