i think you are doing so good now cinder, yes i believe that he is hurting but he may feel that you are serious about him getting himself together first and it may be harder than he thought it would be, thats the way it was for me, but i kept trying, and eventually the pain got too bad and the only thing i knew to get a break from that was to continue to get high, i did that until, that didn't work anymore, drugs began to magnify the problem and the pain of using became greater than the pain of getting sober