Dear GNS, I'm not planning to be politically correct when I say this--forget this ass___. From what you shared, it is clear that this man already showed you his true colors. He loves his alcohol, he loves his drugs, his user buddies come before you, AND he is already "flirting" with women. He could care less about your feelings and trust me, he will hurt you much more in the future. I hope you don't sit and sulk over this one. Personally, I think it is a wonderful thing that you saw him for what he is before tying the knot. Please don't take offense to my honesty.