Rozied,
My son was a full blown drug users for 7 years. He put me through hell and back simply because I was his mother. Well, in actual fact I put myself through all of this because I cared, wanted to know he was Ok. It took that long for me to say NO.
I found that I was the only one he came to for help. Mum will fix it.
Finally I cracked, NO more and if he wanted to see me I met him somewhere because I wouldnt allow him in my home the way he was because it would always end in disaster. He got to the point of unemployable, penniless and living in the streets, Stole food to survive. It killed me just about !
Had to answer his questions without a question. You know like.... Ok thats nice.
Really! I will leave that up to you.
It makes them accountable and finally he came good. He has been back living with me for a year and a half. Has a good job and smiles now!!
Occasionally he goes off the rails and I just wont take anymore. I show him the door.
I would leave him for now until he comes to you.