rozied,
don't think for a minute addicts don't know us, a.k.a. moms, like a book! Oh my son knows every button. He'd tell me how his wife "caused" the argument and I'd halfway believe him. He'd tell me how much he "needed" my hug! He just knew what fed my guilt. The point........I have not called him (and I am not angry and did not leave on bad terms) for four days. I think they're fine or I'd have heard by now. I am going to a play tomorrow and visiting my girls in college after the play. I have decided life is here for me to enjoy so I am going to do my best each day.
Go do something special for yourself and not to be rude but please don't get sucked into the drama. You are a good and decent person. You deserve all the good things that life has to offer. You and Mr. R go do something just for the two of you..... hugs, dixie