Originally Posted by
marle 
There are some good books that you could read. One I liked was, When Your Grown Children Disappoint You and the other is by Mark Sichel who is on these forums, Healing from Family Rifts. They both helped me. Hugs, Marle
Dixied, I doubt he meant for you to see that. BUT, if he did, I'd be sure to leave out a copy of "When your Grown Children Disappoint You" the next time he's at your place :-)
Kids are inheritently selfish, no matter how old they get or how much recovery under the belt. It's so much easier to blame someone else for your own problems, than to take responsibility yourself. I know I still blame my parents for many probs I have and I'm 55 yrs. old!
I know it's hard, but try not to take it personally. We are each individually responsible for our own peace of mind and happiness, so in this case, I would concentrate on how happy you are that he's sober and let the rest go.
**{Hugs}} Barb