thats the way its been for me too cinder, i've always got over one relationship with another one, and thats something that i just didn't want to do this time, and its been a long time coming. i'm ok today, i never thought that i could be ok alone. i used to envy my, gfs who are happy living alone with just their kids and no man, i just didn't think it possible and now i know and i'm just fine.