I'm ok. It's been almost a month since my husband's relapse, and he's attended two smart meetings. He seems to like them, or get something out of them, which was not the case with AA. He likes (and I do, too) the focus they put on planning ahead and thinking of ways to combat the urge before it hits. We are communicating somewhat better and I am less angry than I was at him. We are also going to couples counselling and we have a really good counsellor- no nonsense, no bs, she's great.
We are working at it.