My mom was my first alcoholic, my daughter was my most recent.... both first names are "Sharon".
Mom was not so much a traditional mom... and got daughters who were more aligned with the traditional ideal of caregiving mothers.
I was more like a traditional mom... and got a daughter who is sort of an "average" of mom and I.
I love them both with all my heart. These are the most painful and fulfilling relationships in my entire life.
I look back at the changes in my mindset over the years.... and smile. If I had only known what was coming....