I am definitely going to read lots of things on this forum. I have thought about trying alanon or something, but if he is not willing to change and work on it, I may not need to go because I may be headed for divorce.
Alanon has taught me about ME.... and that has been a constant in my life. The alcoholics I choose to surround myself with, they come and go. My sick head stays attached to my body... it's with me every day.
Alanon is not about the alcoholic. I hope you can try some meetings... you might be surprised. But I would suggest you try at least 6 meetings... it is a subtle program.
((hugs))