sounds like things are at least better in your home now that he doesn't live there anymore...that is a good thing.He is not helping you financially? Why? What makes you think he will after a divorce?Unless you have his paycheck attached by the court I wouldn't count on any support.That the kids don't ask for him is a sure sign they are happier without him there.Why can't he take the kids out for the day during visitation--to give you a break--he stays in your house all day and puts them to bed? You are too nice and giving him free reign over your life.Sounds like it is all set up to his advantage.....you definalty need to make a choice.