Hi sugarpup
I'm sorry, but a "good guy" helps support his children. At this point, it IS about money and there is nothing wrong with getting for your children what they deserve.
Everything else - the 12 steps in one month, etc. doesn't matter.
It sounds like you have created a great life for your kids away from the insanity. I know it's a struggle and I'm sorry you have to go through it. Maybe moving on completely will help with that, I don't know. Have you made a list of what the pluses would be in having him back?
((()))