wendy sorry if I repeat something thats already been said I didnt read all replies.
I wanted to mention though that there are doctors out there that treat pain and are addictions specialists...........maybe you could do some checking around and see if you can find one.( or as others here would advise HAVE HIM check around.....I forget that I'm so use to stepping in and taking over......)
My AH has insomnia issues and most sleeping meds are addictive at least the ones that the general doctors want to use............so he went to an addictionologist who started giving him meds to sleep, but he changed the drug every three weeks to something different and used ones that were no going to be a problem.
We got the name of this doctor from our insurance and also (same recommendation) from the out patient treatment program.
Good luck to you both