I feel your pain. My AS is struggling with trying to get clean. NOthing I said to him has gotten him clean so I am now working on me. With the support of people here, I found a meeting that I am tryign out. I know I have to be strong and hold my ground with him. I do how bad the heartache hurts. I just never thought this would be my life BUT, it is somethng I have no control over. Please take care of yourself. As hard as it is, you have to let him make his mistakes and stand firm. Hugs to you and I will keep your family in my prayers.