((((Wendy))))
I'm sorry the both of you are going though this.
If I may, could I throw a few things that may be worth considering?
Please undertand this is said with the utmost caring for a very difficult situation.
Why is this your problem?
And by that I mean why aren't these decisions your husbands, rather than yours?
You can't heal him, so why isn't he looking for the good doctors?
I can only imagine how hard this must be, but you sound as if your plate is already full, dealing with a baby, him and what your future may or may not hold.
Let him do his own searching, whether it be for a new doc, more meds or a nice taste of soul searching. Many many people (including one of my best friends) have to live with cronic pain, and learn to medicate at a safe level, and long term if necessary. While his addiction may make the circumstances different, the pain is not.
Wendy, don't forget about you in all of this...you are important
((((hugs))))
Cece