I don't believe we have met. Welcome to SR! Sorry for the circumstances that brought you here but it's a good place to be. I'm glad you went to a meeting. Those rooms are safe to cry in. No one judges and everyone understands your pain and why you need to cry. There is no race to a finish line. Take baby steps towards your own healing and recovery.
My ex husband is the addict in my life and i baby stepped it for 3 1/2 years until I was strong enough to make him my ex.
Keep posting and keep going to meetings.