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Old 04-25-2007, 09:14 PM
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lanie67
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I have found ACA (adult children of alcoholics) to be the most helpful fellowship when it comes to dealing with boundary issues with other people and the confusion about my vs. their issues and my vs. their responsibilities. I am sure CODA and Al-anon are helpful. I know there are secular organizations for sobriety so maybe some have sprung up for significant others. I know that many, many atheists have gotten sober in AA; a friend told me when he first got sober he met a man who at the time had 17 years sober who'd taken a black magic marker and marked through every word "God" in the entire Big Book. There are a lot of things that I hear at meetings that I discount...things that imply forcing forgiveness on people who aren't ready, shaming of emotions, that sort of thing. But the people in these 'significant other' meetings are so experienced that they have much to offer in the way of help in these areas.
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