sorry that i'm so late on this, but i wanted to show my support. i kind of agree with ann, i think that first love never dies but sometimes turn into a different kind of love that will never die.
it took me and my first husband, who was my first love 3 yrs to be really cordial after out divorce, but over the yrs he became one of mine and my now husbands best friend. i think we both had a new everlasting love that did last until his death. we even went out a couple time when i wanted to go out and didn't have a date, and we had a platonic ball. i loved him and would have done anything within reason, and neither one of us want to get back together in an "us kind of relationship.
i think that as you continue to work on you, and allow yourself some time, you'll find that special relationship and be glad that you took the time to focus more on you for now. in time, that special somebody will probably show up when you are least expected. keeping you in my prayers