I have to agree with Ann. I think you are looking at the material instead of the all the things that go into a relationship. Right now you are somewhat confused & hurt by your ex. And it is natural to want "stability" & "security"...but that doesn't always make for a happy marriage.
I know that when I married the 1st time, I settled for someone because I thought it was "time" to get married. Not because I was in love or even that we had anything in common or I wanted to spend my life with him. It was more about being married before I hit 30 & besides I thought I could "fix" him.
Listen to Ann, she is a very wise lady.
Lynne