Originally Posted by
sadness123 
Let him do his time and dont send him money and maybe he would learn his lesson.
Hi Sadness. Wow, you have gotten something that takes a lot of us much longer to get.... we think all our "helping" (bailing out, giving $, talking, begging, crying, pleading) will help the addict. But it doesn't. Letting them suffer the consequences of their actions, like you said above, is what helps them the most. After all, why would the addict WANT to change if someone is always cushioning their fall? Its the hard lessons, the suffering of their own choices, that makes them want to change.
Addiction is tough for the family. Take care of you. You are so worth it!