Welcome, Andshewas!
Nice to finally get to know something about you!
I do suggest a book, Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie. I know it had lots of good information that helped me in dealing with my addicted son. I learned where I was enabling, and how to let go and let him live with the consequenes of his actions.
Please do let us know if there is a SMART meeting for segnificant others. I'd be interested.
There is a program, CRAFT, for the family memebers too. Here's a link.
http://www.communitybridgesaz.org/pr...ningCRAFT.html I hope you find it helpful.
Shalom!