If we understand addiction and that addicts will lie to us, use us, and hurt us, why is it necessary to know all the gory details to get yourself into recovery. Someday if my daughter finds recovery, I would not want her to spill her guts about all of the hedonistic things she might have had to do to support her addiction. That is between her and God. All I want to know is that in order to protect myself, I need to work my recovery and let her work hers. I don't need to bash or belittle her. Compassion can work even if you must keep your distance to feel it. No one wants to do the things that addicts do to get their drugs. My daughter never wanted to live the existence she is living today. The details of that life, I don't want to know. That is not denial, that is self preservation. Marle