Yes you are right I chose to stay throughout 5 relapses and today I'm very grateful that I have not experienced some of the dreadful things that I sometimes read about. The things that I did experience and all the money I spent were enough for me to learn my lesson. However in the process of that I took action for myself and still read about the cycle of addiction everyday so I can be educated. Yes you are right it does take a very strong person to overcome addiciton. I pray for my ABF everyday. I have hope and faith but at the end of the day I have accepted that what he chooses to do is up to him and I can't allow that to affect me. He is no longer living with me. He is in a recovery house and right now he is doing good...... It is still very hard for me to understand addiciton because it is so very sad.