Almost ever addict I know, if you take away their "drug of choice" will discover that they cannot drink normally.
So not only do I GO to Alanon, I believe I also qualify fully.
The focus is on us and OUR recovery.
Besides, the ONLY step that even discusses a substance is the first one.... and I just replace the word "alcohol" in my mind with "alcoholic"... which would include my two addicted children.
Go! And I hope you can find a meeting that you love as much as I love mine.
Let us know how it goes... others here will have many questions that you can answer. (((hugs)))