Your question is one that many of us ponder. I have attended both, Al-anon first since there was not a Nar-anon meeting available. I got alot from the Al-anon at first then the meeting changed, and I didn't get much. But I can say that all meetings are diffenent, as in Nar-anon, but you take want helps you and leave the rest there. We also have different levels of stress, anger, and trails and tribulations that bring us to meetings. Nar-anon has been the driving force for my recovery, and availability of meetings is a problem. But a meeting is a meeting, helpful even if you get just a nugget of info, so by all means go and see how it works for you. You definiately need to go to more than one meeting to feel how the groups functions. There is always an option of choosing what works best for you, and only you. Good luck in your seeking, they all serve a purpose, it just what you get back that's means the most.
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